5 steps to getting what you want

5 steps to getting what you want

Do you have goals that you want to achieve?

Is it financial abundance?

Time freedom?

Stronger relationships?

Better health?

Do you even know what you want?

Goal setting has to have a process; without it you aren’t going to be effective in creating a new reality. Many people have a dream but they never achieve it because it stays a dream. They don’t apply a strategy to put the wheels in motion.

If that train don’t move, it ain’t going anywhere!

I want to share 5 steps that I work through with my private coaching clients to get them from where they are right now, to where they want to be. The steps that will put the universal energies into action, conspiring on your behalf. The better you work with these steps the quicker you will bring your dreams into reality.

If my Happiness Coaching has taught me anything it’s that the happier you feel on the inside, the more good and happy events will happen to you on the outside, so don’t take the ‘getting into the feeling’ part of this process lightly. It has an impact on the outcome. Your emotions change your energetic vibration, which attracts positive situations and circumstances.

Follow these steps to get in alignment with your fabulous future reality.

I have created downloadable worksheets to go with this article, and you can download those here.

1. Where are you right now?

You have to have a starting point. You have to assess where you are, right now, in relation to your goal. This will allow you to then see how you can get there. If you can’t see the difference in the two points, there can’t a route.

2. GPS

Just like the Satnav in your car you can use your body like a GPS. To tap into this system, you can use your feelings and emotions. Looking back to point one, where you are right now, think about how you are feeling in this place. That will create your vibrational energy level starting point. If you have a dream to have more financial abundance, or a better relationship you obviously don’t want to be in your present situation, so you may feel unhappy. Don’t judge where you are, just acknowledge it and note how you feel there.

3. Where do you want to be?

Now the juicy bit! What is your goal, your dream? What do you want in create in your reality?


If my clients say they want to be happy, or they want to be rich, I tell them that they are both right now. If you don’t know what you want how will you ever know if you have already achieved your goal? Compared to your circumstances a year ago you might be richer or have a more loving relationship now, so unless you have quantifiable goals and dreams you can’t know if you have reached your goals already.


If you want to have more financial abundance, write an amount. Is it that you want an extra £100 per month, or an extra £1000? Be more specific.

4. How will you feel when you achieve your dreams and goals?

This brings the GPS back in to play. You need to be emotionally attached to your goals in order to bring them into reality. It is the feeling that your financial abundance or loving relationship will bring you that will drive you to take action towards achieving.


Your dream has to be personal. You can’t decide that you want something just because your best friend mentioned it and you thought that it sounded like a good idea. Copying and pasting somebody else’s dreams into your life isn’t going to work, because you will never be able to fully feel the emotions. They’ll be forced, and that doesn’t make things work.


Get into the feeling of having achieved your dreams and keep yourself in that feeling as much as possible. The more time you spend in that energy the quicker your dreams will manifest into your reality.

5. What action steps are you taking?

So, you’ve set your goals and got into the feeling. All good, right? Wrong! You need to take action steps to bring your dreams into reality. Nothing can happen without action. Action is you telling the universe that you trust and believe that what you want to happen is definitely going to manifest in your life. It also stops you from worrying about it not happening, because you are taking action towards the end goal, so you can feel the movement.

Steps don’t have to be huge, baby steps to start with are good, as long as they get the ball rolling in the right direction.

If you are wanting better finances, then perhaps you could start by selling items from your wardrobe that you don’t wear anymore. It will give you more cash, increasing your vibrational energy, and from there you will start finding other ideas to increase your bank balance.


If you want your own business to increase your finances, start by buying the domain, or designing your logo. Then invest in a business coach or start reading a book that will help you in an area, such as marketing.


For a more loving relationship, you can take steps to improve the one you have, or start going out a bit more (newsflash: no-one is randomly going to knock on your door and ask you for a date! You’d probably think they were weirdos if they did anyway!).


For a healthier weight and body gradually choose healthier snacks and start exercising. As you begin to feel better inside your energy levels will increase and create a more positive situation.


For ways to bring more law of attraction into your life help yourself to a free copy of my Manifestation Journal to get you into the practice of allowing and receiving.

Bonus: What gets in your way?

That will most certainly be your mindset. Whether you believe me or not, it is true. I hear people all the time say that they don’t have any issues with their mindset, but I’m sorry to tell that that you are fooling yourself. Your mindset can be good or bad, but it is there.

You probably don’t even realise that you are doing it, until someone (a.k.a. me) points it out to you.

Listen to how you talk about money, or relationships or being overweight, depending on your goals.

Do you hear yourself, or a loved one say:

Money doesn’t grow on trees.

All the good men are taken.

I have a slow metabolism.

I want never gets.

Next time one of those comes up question why you believe that is true. There won’t be a valid reason, so there’s no need to hold, on to that thought, is there? Let it go.

That’s better, now we can keep moving forward 😁

Before you go, make sure you have downloaded your free worksheets to go with this. You can find them here.

Writing everything down will mean that you are more likely to succeed. You are 42% more likely to achieve your goals if they are written down (Peter Economy – Inc.). It also ingrains them in the brain because of the hand – eye – brain coordination needed for writing. So that’s why we had homework in school! 😁

Keep me up to date with your progress. I’d love to hear what amazing things you have achieved and created in your life!

Sending love and blessings


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